Personal Growth

The Power of Friendship


I wanted to share a lesson I learned this week.

A lesson about friendship and the power it holds.

I have a close friend who is actually quite different from me in many ways. But she we also share many things in common and have come to know each other well over the years.

We feel fairly comfortable sharing our thoughts with one another, but lately, it seems that we have been able to share some of our deeper thoughts.

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So, here’s what happened…

My friend and I often talk about our dreams, and we’ve both seen the other start something new that didn’t work out.

Recently, my friend was about to embark on a new direction in her journey, which at first glance, seemed to be a good fit. I supported her in her decision.

What I noticed, however, was that she didn’t seem to be truly fired up by this new venture.

Now, this friend of mine is what WaitButWhy calls a Tier 1 friend. So, to me, that means we’re close enough to be able to take risks with each other.

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My gut instinct told me to share my thoughts with her and to give her my perspective.  Another part of me didn’t want to interfere with the journey she chose and to let her experience whatever it was that life was going to offer her.

So, I went with my gut. Why?

Because I felt it to the core, and I love my friend, and ultimately want to see her happy.

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So, I wrote out all my thoughts in an email, and guess what?

She didn’t disown me! The letter helped her to figure some things out.

I was so happy that I cried. Relief and joy.

So, the lesson here is to listen to your heart, and your gut, when it comes to matters of friendship.

Say what you need to say, through respect and love, and the power of your friendship will provide all you need (even if it goes the other way).

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28 Day Raw Food Cleanse, Personal Growth, Weight-loss Record

Year-long Goals Check-in


It’s time to revisit my year-long goals to see how I am doing.

My evaluation: Pretty darn good!

Exercise Goal The first row shows my exercise results. I’ve exercised 11 out of the 17 days. I like that, alhough I can improve in this area.

Plant-based I have stuck to this goal, every day, although I do now realize that yesterday, I ate a Caesar dressing that would have had egg in it. So, I shouldn’t have filled in the box for plant-based on teh 17th. Minor error.

Raw Food Cleanse I have been on track throughout my whole cleanse, except for my blunder yesterday.

Work on Blog I have posted daily and/or done research or read other blogs/sites related to health and wellness. I am currently working on my philosophy…trying to pin point exactly what I beleive about health, and more specifically, nutrition.

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Want to create your own year-long goals sheet? It’s never too late in the year to start. Click here to see more about how it works.

Wishing you a healthy journey.

Personal Growth

Year-Long Goals Sheet


I love this tool! I used it for all of 2014, and it really helped me to see my progress with my goals. I am not posting my 2014 sheet, because I stopped tracking things in the fall (was a rough time for me).

Below, check out how this tool works. I have set up 2015, so you can see how you can use it too.

Before I do that, let me set things straight.

First off, this is NOT my idea. I got the calendar from a blog last year, but I forgot to make a note of where I got it! So, if you think your blog is where I got it, please let me know so I can credit you.

What is the Year-Long Goals Sheet?

Basically, you choose 1-4 goals that you want to track on a daily basis.

For example, your goal may be to exercise everyday. So, you mark off each day that you exercise. Over time, you get to see your progress, or lack of progress.

Maybe you want to be a writer, and you commit to writing 5 days a week. Same idea, mark off the days you have committed to your goal. Instead of using a monthlycalendar, you use a year long, condensed calendar, so you can see your year at a glance.

In order for this to work, you need to have specific goals that you can notice on a daily basis. General goals don’t fit well for this method.

Here is my Year-Long Goals Sheet that I just set up today, for 2015.

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On the left side, each month is listed. Each month shows 4 rows, one for each possible goal. Across the top, you will find the days of the month.

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My goals:

  1. Exercise/Move every day.
  2. Eat only plant-based foods (for me that means whole foods that are not processed)
  3. Complete my 28 Day Raw Food Cleanse from Jan. 1-28, eating only raw foods (fruit and veggies which also includes smoothies and fresh juices)

Tracking my goals:

1. I assigned a felt marker colour to each goal. Purple=moving/exercising (if I exercise twice, I put a line through the box); green = plant-based; yellow = Cleanse.

2. Each day, I fill in the square that corresponds to the day of the month, and the goal I am working toward, if I have worked toward the goal that day.

3. If I do nothing on that day, I leave the square blank.

Throughout the Year:

I have three goals to start off the year, but my Year-Long Goals Sheet has room for one more. I can add another goal later, or I can change a goal. For example, since I’m doing a cleanse in January, I can change that goal to something else in February.

I have a blank calendar below for you. Just save it as an image. Then copy it to a Word file, or some other file. Insert a text box over the title, to make your own title.

Good luck with your commitments for 2015!

If you want to hear more about my 28-day Cleanse, check out that post…I will post asap.

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Personal Growth

Get Empowered by Failure!


I am beginning day 22 of my plant-eating challenge. I have had some tougher days, but overall, I’m pleased with my progress.

Sometimes, though, I feel like I have failed. A few days ago, I felt like a failure. Read my REBOOT post about it. I overcame my attitude!

It’s difficult to stay on track when you want to eat Whole Foods that are Plant-Based (WFPB).

Everyone around you eats animal-based food. Temptations are everywhere.

Check out this article, from Mind Body Green; it made me feel better about my own relapses.  Although it’s disheartening to learn that many people who try to eat a vegetarian/vegan/WFPB diet go back to eating meat and dairy, it IS reassuring to know that I am not alone and that I am attempting to accomplish something BIG.

The article pumped up my “challenge” genes! It inspired me to overcome the obstacles of sticking to a WFPB diet.

I see it as a challenge!

When I have achieved the realization of living a long-term WFPB lifestyle, I am going to feel amazing AND I can really pat myself on the back for it!

Wishing you a healthy journey.

Mental Strength, Personal Growth

It’s Ok Not to be Perfect


My last post was about not being so hard on myself.

This last week was a bit low for me because I didn’t stay on track with eating the way I wish to. I was so hard on myself! I continue to reflect on this idea and remind myself to be kind to myself and notice the good things I’m doing.

All weekend, I’ve been thinking about how I do not do the things needed to change my lifestyle. I decided I need to make changes..I need to move my body! So, basically I’ve been obsessing about it. Today, my daughter and I decided to attend hot yoga each morning this week, at 6 a.m. I know, it sounds a bit crazy, a bit extreme!

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Thank you to Yoga Teacher Journal at http://www.yogateacherjournal.com/can-bikram-yoga-help-reverse-cancer-processes/ for this great image.

We’ve both done hot yoga before, and we really enjoy it. Specifically, we’ve done Bikram Hot Yoga. It is tough at first, but the amazing work out you get, along with the cleaned-from-the-inside feeling is worth it. After you hang in for a while, you start to notice that you can do poses you couldn’t do before and you can go further in previous poses where your movement was limited.

As I was rattling off my goal of going all five days this week to hot yoga (aka…perfectionist talk), to my daughter, I thought wait a minute. Get off that perfectionist train! I then said out loud to her, “We don’t have to go all five days, but that is who I want to be. It’s ok if we go only a few times. I do not have to be perfect.”

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(Source of quote: Craft, Play Love- http://craftplaylove.blogspot.ca/2012/02/power-of-positive-printing.html)

I have a vision of the person I want to become. That person feels vibrant and energetic every day. That person is trim and fit and confident. Ultimately, that person eats well, gets enough sleep and enjoys life. Part of that vision is that this person makes hot yoga a part of her life. I’ve gone to hot yoga off and on, and last year in August, I think I went about 17 times. I was impressed with myself!

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In fact, I have told oodles of people about how great hot yoga is. I really do love it. So, why did I give it up? I don’t know. It’s sort of like Newton’s first law of motion (also called Law of Inertia which is :

An object at rest will remain at rest unless acted on by an unbalanced force.

An object in motion continues in motion with the same speed and in the same direction unless acted upon by an unbalanced force.

I’m not sure what the unbalanced force was…well, it was likely just my brain. Or it could have been a distraction that caused me to miss a few days, which led to a few more days. And then, I was at rest. So a disatisfaction of how things are today makes me feel unbalanced. I am my own force and will put my body back in motion!

So, for this week, I am going to take positive steps towards becoming that great person I described earlier. The person I want to be. But….I accept the fact that those steps will not lead me down a perfect path.

I accept that my journey may be bumpy or not move at a consistent pace. I accept me as my imperfect little self.